Importance of Ceremony

Importance of Ceremony

Funeral or Memorial Ceremonies are about the deceased, but they are for the living. Dr. Alan Wolfelt has provided 6 needs that a meaningful ceremony can help to begin the healing process for a family.

 

Reality

Gathering together helps us to acknowledge a new reality: a loved one has died. Our first instinct when we lose someone we love is to reach out to others to process our grief and begin to understand our new reality. 

 

Recall

Sharing memories and recalling the things we love most about the one who has died helps us to honor the person in a special way. It is important to go backward before you go forward.

 

Support

Inviting other members of the community to a visitation or ceremony helps to activate support for the bereaved family. If no public ceremony is held, friends may keep their distance, thinking that the family wishes to grieve privately. However, a public service invites the warm, loving, and caring support of friends, neighbors, and community members that is so needed at a time of loss.

 

Expression

A funeral gives outward expression to our inner grief, helping us to mourn a loss and create forward movement in our grief. Mourning is different from grief. Mourning is different from grief. Mourning is "the outward expression of grief, grief gone public, or a shared social response to a loss." A meaningful ceremony can actually help us take our internal grief and make it public through mourning.

 

Meaning

Searching for meaning after loss is one of the basic needs of a mourner. The funeral ceremony helps to bring together meaningful elements such as music, readings, stories, actions, symbols, and the loving support of others to create the sweet spot of a meaningful funeral experience.

 

Transcend

The funeral experience as a whole is like a rite of passage. We emerge transformed with a new identity, a new relationship with our lost loved one, and a new relationship with our community as a whole. 

 

 

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